First off, you're not a disgrace to the community. I've lost to uke so many times its not funny. I think almost everyone here has felt this way.
Second, seeing as I am far from a teacher, let alone a master of this game, I suggest going to the Tutorials board. There are some great beginner tutorials plus the people there are always willing to help. Also, there is always the option of going to the Fight School option in the TB main menu and following some of the tuts there.
Hope this helped ^_^