I think because you don't have balance, and your opponents have good balance, also sparring helps a bit getting good balance in rpl making or just play some mods like those, also when you do some move don't just extend joint, you can just like one frame to extend and then relax or hold, relaxing and holding are good ways to get good balance.
hope that helped
Aaaand also you can extend and hold your neck to get it : )