Originally Posted by
omegadark1
Oh. If I could make friends with a very silent person, I would encourage them to be more outgoing with people who want to meet them. It would be really hard though, because they'll soon leave thinking that it's awkward.
Trying to get an introvert to do something he/she usually isn't doing, won't end well. As example, I consider only a few people worth talking to and I'd definitely be annoyed if you try to get me to talk with someone outside of the "worth talking to"-group.
This is actually describing myself as well:
Originally Posted by
Gotkicks2
I noticed that she already have her own impression of everyone in our class. She already took note of the people she doesn't want to be friends with even if she have not really known them (she might've been judgemental).
Also,
Originally Posted by
Gotkicks2
So I suggest you try to be as friendly and harmless as possible. Make sure to respect their opinion and if ever you can't help but to correct his/her statement, try to say it as calm as possible and pick the right kind of words (nothing direct or indirectly offensive).
I'm quite sure that introverts notice if you are acting differently to how you are usually acting. And if that happens, the introverted person will start thinking about the reason why you try to be so friendly. I mean, you could try to befriend that person because you need that person for a certain "purpose"; as example, that person has a car and could take you to the trainstation etc.
(At least that's how I work)
Anyways, about
Originally Posted by
lordtiger
What do you think is the best way to gain introverted people's trust, and how would you go about it?
I think the best way to start, is to talk with them about what they are interested in. After that you can talk about a topic both of you are interested in, which should increase the persons trust in you, as you get to know each other, slowly. Basicly you have to give the introverted person the impression that they can talk with you about things (As example, I'm not talking to persons, when I'm sure that there's nothing I could talk about with that person). Also talking about why they prefer that way of live over another way is something you should avoid, since you'd be criticizing their way of live then and they'd have defend themselves (But since you are rather introverted as well, I don't think that would happen
). Once they start to feel comfortable around you, they usually are trusting you as well.
EVERYTHING ABOVE IS TOTALLY NOT WRITTEN BY SOMEONE WHO IS INTROVERTED HIMSELF