As I've said in the Team Aikido thread (shit happened there too), charm is a fucking douchebag. I'd been friends with him for quite awhile, and I had grown to wonder why everyone despised him. Now I know because I have a personal experience of his douchiness (not a word stfu).
I was just sparring him, nothing special, when I told him he was being too aggressive. He proceeded to tell me to stfu and then told me that I should be honored to be speaking to him. So yeah, ignore charm.