Sorry just got this game, and I'm wondering if it's possible to change reaction time on your server, as for a beginner it'd be great to play friends when we can both have more time to work out what's going on.
You can mess with such quite easily if starting the server from ToriLaunch (ToriLaunch.exe in the Toribash folder). Otherwise, if just running the toribash_server.exe, you can set reaction time with the -r option. (eg. Start->Run... "CProgram Files\Toribash\toribash_server.exe" -r 60)