How about you read the rules before you post, for one.
Second, calm your tits. Private rooms are private for a reason. When people make a room, it is their room, and as long as it doesn't infringe upon the rules of the game(i.e. farming), they're allowed to do whatever they want in it, including kicking you.
Don't assume people are just being elitists, you're probably intruding on their privacy.